|The Moore River, Guilderton...it flows into the Indian Ocean|
|Ruby exploring among the vines|
Last weekend was spent with my son at my beach house at Guilderton. The late autumn is a wonderful time of the year; the countryside is slowly turning from burnished beige to tentative green; the vine leaves are dropping; the summer wind has gone somewhere else to wreak it’s fury; the sun is gentle but persistent after about mid morning; and the chilly awakenings are conducive to enveloping clothes and warming cups of tea and coffee.
The part of me which almost continually thinks about things culinary turns to slow cooked meals, dredging up recipes from past and also recent European adventures .
|St Luke's Anglican Church, Gingin, 1860|
We went exploring in the region of Gingin. There is a wonderful old church in the town, or at least old by Australian standards! We took the dogs for a walk through the cemetery behind the church, taking time to reflect on the amazing tenacity of the early English settlers in colonial Australia in difficult circumstances.
|An original wooden headstone, nestled under the trees|
|The arid autumn landscape at the vineyard|
My son has extensive experience with wine tasting and so I introduced him to a local vineyard, Riseborough, which has a Grenache Rose and Chenin Blanc which I particularly enjoy. We tasted, enjoyed the banter with the well versed sales assistant and walked around the vineyard.
With regard to manners however, it was a weekend of reflection. My son is 26. We can talk about almost everything. As with my daughter, my son and I have a great friendship.
Our manners, over the years, have developed. While I would like to think that both of us have deported ourselves in an exemplary fashion over nearly three decades, the truth is that we are very similar and we have clashed on quite profound levels at various times. We have had to question our respect for each other, but our affection and most importantly love for one another, has never been impacted. We now know each other well enough to understand when to “back off” , to let the argument rest. Invariably when it is revisited there is no ill feeling and a respectful discussion…in which we sometimes “agree to disagree” .
|The Indian Ocean seen from the house...a 150m walk|
When we are mothers of young sons, I don’t believe that any of us can envisage this emerging relationship, with these ”other men” in our lives, becoming one of our substantial, mature relationships. However, if the relationship is well nurtured, with a mutual desire for respect, in the long term it will become one of the most important relationships of our lives.
|The arid landscape of the Riseborough vineyard in autumn|
I know that when my son finds his soul-mate, he will take the verbal arguments and affectionate makeups with his mother into his vital life relationship. I hope that the respect he has for me, and his older sister, will ensure he is an open minded, compassionate companion and sensitive father.
|Yes, my son is a lot taller than me!|
To be able to share a weekend with my son, full of laughter, good conversation, some healthy disagreements…and cooking…is a source of enormous pleasure…